How Do You Ask Tarot Cards About Relationships? (2024)

Posted Fri, Sep 20, 2013 at 12:45 pm ET

Q. You make a good point. “It takes two to tango”, right? But my position on relationship readings has to do with the realities of "psychic" tarot readings than with the relationship itself.

One of the basics of a good, long term relationship is trust and respect, right? There are elements of trust and respect in readings as well. If we can’t put respect for the other person into the reading, how can yourespect the relationship itself?

Which brings me back to those same things I keep harping about, on and on and on.

• Respect the other persons privacy and dignity
• Experience, don’t expect.

Really, try it. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes for a split-second. How would you feel if you found out someone was asking a psychic about you behind your back? How would you feel if this person (who claims to care about you) went to a stranger on the internet and asked that stranger to look at your deepest feelings, emotions and desires for the relationship…and then expect the stranger to spill all that intimate information out to them? Would you feel betrayed? Stalked? Creeped out?Would you want to be in a relationship with someone who tried to use a psychic to rummage around in your heart and your head to sense what you want and what you planned to do? Now, would you want to do something like that to the person you care about? Wouldn't it be a more caring, loving, relationship-building thing to do to talk to them directly, and think about their feelings?

Personally, I don’t think that kind of heart and head rummaging is even possible…even if it were, I wouldn’t in a million years actually DO it. That kind of thing is just plain unethical.

Which is why, on those rare occasions that other people do allow me some sense of them on a soul, etheric, or psychic level, I am deeply honored by the experience. They are showing extraordinary trust and respect to me when that happens – and I can only return that respect in kind. The same is true of sensing crossed over loved ones and spirit guides: It is profound and special honor worthy of both your respect and mine.

The other aspect is my new mantra of ‘experience, don’t expect’…the more you tie yourself to expectations, the more you limit your reading to a certain topic or a certain yes/no aspect of a question, the less helpful a reading is. Focusing or “will we get back together” or “will we get married” is like staring at the speck of dust on the end of your nose, and missing the rainbow in the sky above you.

The bigger we keep our thinking in a reading, the more comforting, inspiring and empowering the reading can be.

So how do you ask about relationships in a Tarot reading? Easy…use the the words “Me” and “I”… but avoid using he/she, him/her or the other person name if you can help it. Ask things like “what can I do to make my relationship with ______better” or “What can I do to heal my broken heart?” “How can I find the right person for me?”…things like that.

After all, you are paying for the reading so it is only fair that the readingfocuses on you. You should get the most out of the reading that you can. That is exactly why I am constantly talking about what readings can, and CAN’T do. I want you to get the most value for your reading dollar, which is also why I put up Pages like“what to expect from a reading”. A "How to get the most from your reading" page is coming soon.

Yes, the other person is involved in the relationship, but they aren’t involved in the reading (unless they choose to be on a spiritual level, but that is very rare, special thing).

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